It also happened to the unborn, those like my son who were born in the post-9/11 world. I measure the 15 years in terms of his life, as well, because I was 8 months pregnant with him when the towers fell. There is now the generation of K-12 students who weren't alive before the tragedy. They will not have their 9/11 stories. But how many are like my son, and were on the cusp of life themselves?
It was such an uncertain and unsettling time. As he moved and kicked, I watched the footage of my isolated American bubble on fire. And I wondered, what sort of world is my baby being born into? How do we do this, moving on with life when we are seeing some of the worst that humanity bears?
I tried to explain to him just this morning about how we used to walk with my father to his gate when he was traveling, saying goodbye and waving to him as he boarded his plane. My son appeared to be a bit dumbfounded by that, as his life in airports is all security guards and guns and full-body length scanners and the taking off of belts, bracelets, and shoes and the unloading of laptops and toiletries only to get through and put everything back together again, assuming that that is one more step we can try to take toward safety. Why hasn't it always been like that, is the question I can see him thinking.
He doesn't know the world without the possibility of planes flying into buildings.
He doesn't know the world without at least one threat per year in our school district from someone on social media promising to hurt teachers or students, using bombs or guns, openly displaying hatred for Jews and Muslims.
And he doesn't know the world with innocence. He is seeing politics for the first time as a young adult, hearing Trump's trumpisms, full of assumptions and slippery slopes and deliberate mischaracterization. He has learned about Islam under the veil of terrorism.
What I want him to know is that in times of national emergencies, people will pull together. We will put aside what seemed like important, divisive differences and offer a hand. Or, like on 9/11, a life.
I want him to know that evil has always existed and it will continue to exist. We aren't in the end of times, and there is no such thing as the good old days. Each generation will go through the same patterns and have to face their own children. What will be said to them?
Connor and I visited the 9/11 memorial and museum this past April. I watched him experience the emotion and conflict of seeing the destruction and what was lost, what cannot be regained. One person cannot be blamed, and justice is a fleeting, nebulous concept. What I want him to know is that carrying grace and gratitude in his heart is what will make him human, not revenge and hatred.
We have the chance with this generation of not passing on our hatred, but rather showing them humanity. We don't even have a shot at knowing how many people on the world have died as a result of the post-9/11 world. They matter, too. Seeing one's place in our global community is our best chance at the future.
I'm choosing to include this picture from the museum because it shows the effort made to save parts of what was lost. Saving for the future, because even then, people knew that would be necessary and important. As a global citizen, my son has a responsibility to know the context of his own life, to think deeply and to care deeply, not just about himself and his own family. His generation has the potential of being the ones far into the future who make decisions about issues that have surfaced because of 9/11, and he wasn't quite alive yet. That is the burden of those of us who were: making sure they are equipped fully and fairly for that charge.